Home Life: Bread and Butter

There’s nothing like fresh bread baking in the oven, butter from the local farm, and quality time with one’s family. It may sound cliche, but these are the small things that bring a family together. It can almost be guaranteed that if you bake a loaf of bread, little feet will soon come scurrying down the stairs asking what smells so good. This is family life – it brings everyone together without stress, anxiety, or expectations. What a simple, but memorable concept – sitting around a table enjoying homemade bread coated in fresh butter.

The sports may be canceled for the summer. The camps may be canceled for the summer. But your family is not canceled – it is here and ready. Your children are waiting for the simple things. They are ready to love, to grow, and to work together during a time when these qualities are not so easy to find in society. So, I have included one of my favorite homemade white bread recipes from Crazy for Crust. Take the time to bake as a family, enjoy food as a family, pray as a family, and love each other through the process.

Book Review: Giving Thanks and Letting Go by Danielle Bean

If you are in need of support or moments to contemplate your vocation as a mother, this beautiful vocation given by God, please pick up Danielle Bean’s book: Giving Thanks and Letting Go – Reflections on the Gift of Motherhood.

Ave Maria Press – Giving Thanks and Letting Go

I’ve been meaning to write a review on this book for months, but God had other plans: my electronic copy as an initial reader through the publisher didn’t work so I purchased my own print copy through Ave Maria Press, I was then surprised with first trimester pregnancy symptoms, usual homeschooling deadlines, and in fact, at one point I needed St. Anthony to step in for me because I couldn’t find the book and had only one chapter left to read. Let’s just say that my 2020 is been about the same as everyone’s – trudging along, praying for relief, and confidence in God’s Will. Well, I just found some relief from this estranged world and have a chance to sit down to review this book.

I’ve read a lot of books written by Catholic moms, but Giving Thanks and Letting Go: Reflections on the Gift of Motherhood is one of my absolute favorites! I could relate so closely with Danielle Bean as she reminisced the times with young children and her transformation throughout the years. There were times I laughed out loud and other times when I started to cry, because it was so relatable. I’m in those busy years of little children, but I’m also watching my older children reach middle school while being pregnant with baby number six. It’s an odd realization that my older ones are at a different stage and they will soon need to spread their wings, while I’m left with motherhood gaps. I’m learning to embrace this time with them more now and I’m so grateful for the opportunity to homeschool them and spend these fleeting moments by their side.

I appreciate Danielle Bean’s raw narrative and her trust in God’s Will for their family in regards to finances, children, and life in general. Thank you for writing such a fantastic book, Danielle Bean! I highly recommend every mother to read this book. Motherhood truly is a transformation and each day I’m learning to let go a little more of my expectations and giving into God’s plan. I’m so grateful for mothers like Danielle Bean, who followed their passion for motherhood and writing while raising many little ones and trusting in God. I will fully admit that trusting is God is not easy, as I have had my moments of apprehension, but I never regret relying on His goodness in the end.

If you are in need of support or moments to contemplate your vocation as a mother, this beautiful vocation given by God, please pick up Danielle Bean’s book: Giving Thanks and Letting Go – Reflections on the Gift of Motherhood. It will be a great book to have in your home library for man years to come!

To Homeschool or Not to Homeschool

There are seasons in life and now I believe there are seasons in schooling.

Update: This post was written July 2019. We have now finished our second year of homeschooling and the saying that it gets easier – is true!

It has been quite a year – one full year since we started life as a homeschool family. In that one year, we not only took a different route from our seven years at a private Catholic grade school, but we also welcomed baby number five to our family. My grandmother always said, “God’s plans are better than our own.” These words ring especially true over the past year. What I thought would be just a school transition, turned out to be an entire family transition when we welcomed a baby on September 4, 2018.

If you had asked me five years ago about homeschooling, I would’ve responded that it just wasn’t for our family. (And that is partly true: it just wasn’t for our family at that time.) As a mom of young children, I didn’t understand fully how little ones learn differently, and that one form of education is not a good fit for all. My choleric temperament took over two years of contemplation, prayer, and convincing, before it was clear that we were to homeschool. (And if any of you know a choleric — long periods of contemplation are very rare. I tend to make decisions rather quickly.)

Choosing to homeschool, after seven years in a private Catholic school, was a leap of faith. But God always provides and patiently waits for us to accept His Will. This was most definitely the case for us.

Homeschooling is not meant for everyone, and once a homeschool family doesn’t mean forever a homeschool family, but I would like to share what prompted our decision and why it’s the best fit for our family at this time.

  1. Family Life

After our spiritual lives, there is nothing more important than family life. The state of the family tends to be overlooked much more now in society than ever before. It is a heavy burden, but the state of family life largely falls upon the mother. As women, we have been gifted with feminine traits that make a house into a home or a group of relatives into a family. If we do not strive, on a daily basis, to protect the sacredness of the family, it will only become a passing fancy from generations ago.

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Between extracurricular activities, school, and homework, our life was moving too fast. With private schools often come large amounts of homework, and this expectation is not doable for many large families. My husband and I want our children to be children. To enjoy playing after spending eight hours at school. To learn not only how to interact in a classroom setting, but how to serve the community, use imaginative play with their siblings and cousins, but overall to pray and spend quality time as a family. The hours of nightly homework were quite stressful for our daughter. Neglecting the family Rosary for schoolwork was frustrating, and that was when I began contemplating homeschooling.

  1. The Expectations

I have noticed a trend in many schools. The dropping test scores across the world (or at least in many countries) have brought schools running towards a solution, but instead of looking at what developed and trained vibrant minds in the past, school boards are searching for new and improved material. I have a deep love of learning and academics. I understand the importance of education and the value it not only brings in this life, but also that it can raise a person’s mind and soul towards holier things, and ultimately God.

Children are not adults, and we tend to forget this fact. Each year of school is meant to build upon itself. It isn’t necessary to push children ahead in every subject. The expectations that come along with advanced academics can lead children away from their innocence and into a stressful environment. Learning should lead toward what is good, true, and beautiful, not only toward an increase in test scores.

A few of my children thrive in math, while others thrive in language arts. With homeschooling, I am able to keep the child at grade level for their struggling subjects and move them forward where they excel. Ultimately, I desire them to love learning no matter the subject.

  1. The Love of a Mother

This one is much simpler. I just love my children. I know, I know, we all love our children. But I have learned over the past ten years that I am happiest when I’m with my husband and children. Don’t misunderstand me, I’m not saying it’s easy. I just love being the one teaching them their phonics and math facts, planning field trips, singing in the kitchen with them while making dinner, and listening to them converse about Jesus and Mary. The summer months were always my favorite. Not only because I love the warm weather (and we don’t get many months of it in Wisconsin), but I loved those months with my children. I am well aware that this hands-on approach isn’t for everyone, but it was a huge factor in making this decision. I love mothering my children, but don’t get me wrong, I need breaks too. I no longer have my children only in the morning and at night, I now get to spend the day teaching them, while also learning from them too. It is truly a gift.

  1. Self-Confidence

No one understands a child the way parents understand their child. Teachers are truly amazing and self-giving human beings. I am indebted to the many wonderful teachers that taught my children at our private school, but homeschooling has created a beautiful environment for my children to develop self-confidence and a mind for discovery. The home is where children often let go of their emotions, throw tantrums, argue incessantly with their siblings, and test boundaries with adults, but these are all normal and not only a sign of growth, but of security.

Homeschooling has brought a new level of self-confidence to my three school-aged children beyond what I expected. They have the potential and are learning to chase their dreams. My oldest child wants to earn her degree in accounting and start an orphanage. My second child has a love for animals and desires to become a zoologist. My third child, who is only 5 years old, know that he wants to build a house. These dreams aren’t solely a result of homeschooling, but I have been able to foster each of their interests more than a brick-and-mortar school is able to do.

  1. The Faith

We were blessed to have a Catholic school that integrated the Faith into every aspect of the school day, with weekly Mass, daily visits to the Chapel, prayer throughout the day, Catechism classes, and teachings on the virtues. Even through all of this, I wanted to be able to share the Catholic Faith with my children more. The school did a tremendous job, but with homeschooling, I am able to partake in the Liturgical celebrations, the daily prayer, the daily Rosary at 3 PM, weekly Mass, Catechism classes, and the beautiful questions about God and heaven that come from a mind of child.

Homeschooling was a leap of faith for our family, but it has truly been rewarding. I will not pretend that it isn’t stressful at times, but the stressful moments are fewer than when our children were at the private school. I no longer feel like we are in a rat race. There is a simplicity to life now. I am quite a stickler when it comes to schoolwork, but when everything is finished for the day, the children have ample opportunities to be children and grow in relationships with their siblings, friends, and relatives. We have time for piano lessons, choir, soccer club, wrestling club, T-ball, a weekly co-op, zoo classes, and art classes. Learning does not only come from a book, but also by example and discovery. My non-school-age children have also thrived in this environment as they watch their older siblings learn and explore.

This may not always be our schooling method as the children grow, but for right now, it is serving us well. No one will ever find the perfect school and not every sibling will fit well in the same school. There are seasons of life and I now believe there are seasons of schooling. I am not a seasoned veteran of homeschooling, but I am grateful to have this opportunity with my children and to share the journey that brought us to an unexpectable destination.

Article written by Danielle M. Heckenkamp. Originally posted at ww.catholicmom.com on July 12, 2019.