There comes a time for every book lover, when we want to take our nose out of those print pages (yes, I have a preference for print over ebooks) and desire to connect with other readers who also sacrifice every waking hour for a free moment to delve into another world. Not all of us who love the written word, have the luxury to join a local book club or empty our minds for several hours perusing the shelves of a local book store. Sometimes, we must find book companionship on Goodreads or social media outlets by following our favorite authors and book reviewers. Yet, recently I was given an opportunity to join together with fellow readers and one of my favorite authors, Anne Bogel, and celebrate the launch her upcoming book, I’d Rather Be READING.
There’s nothing like the opportunity to be a part of a book launch team as we all anxiously await the early release of the book and the anticipation of connecting with an amazing writer, blogger, and podcaster.
As I had high expectations for I’d Rather Be READING by Anne Bogel, I did not expect her book to bring me back into my bookish world from childhood to adulthood. As she traveled through her own personal book travels, my own path through the written world quickly emerged from the recesses of my memories. Bogel wrote about visiting the library with stacks of books and reading deadlines, while also reminiscing about those days spent in a local book store with her father. Each of her own experiences, not matter how personal, reminded me of a similar bookish adventure I experienced. I did not think this book would give me a chance to return to those childhood moments of when my journey towards reading became a true love and how this progressed into adulthood. It was her literary journey that allowed me to also reminisce about mine.
If you are a book lover like myself, you won’t want to wait another second. Pre-order I’d Rather Be READING now and receive not only a book that will bring laughter and bookish memories, but if you pre-order before September 4th at IdRatherBeReading.com you will receive the special bonuses posted from the website below.
Preorder one copy of I’d Rather Be Reading (before September 4)
from your preferred retailer and receive these digital bonuses:
- FREE digital download of the audio version read by Anne
- Access to Anne’s new class “7 Ways to Get More Out
of Your Reading Life”, live on August 2
- Beautiful digital artwork from the book
Preorder two or more copies and receive:
- All of the above digital bonuses
- Signed book plate
- I’d Rather Be Reading bookmark
- Postcard print from the book
- Bookish stickers from the Modern Mrs Darcy shop
Don’t waste a moment by ordering this late. Because I’d Rather Be READING might just be calling your name, for we all know that sometimes we don’t find the books, the books find us.
How time flies! It has been five years since the launch of the book, Provocative Manners: The Sauce of Life with my best friend, Katrina. There’s nothing more amazing, nor more exhausting than writing a book. As I am now working on a second book, the love and pressure has started all over again and there are no better feelings than the love and dedication put into a book for others to enjoy! Buy your copy on Barnes & Noble or Amazon and enjoy!
Let’s Enjoy Each Other’s Company.
Sometimes we forget how to handle the stress of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years that we get caught up in ourselves and our own desires, while forgetting the needs of others. Instead of focusing on the gifts, the food, or the parties, let’s focus on spending time together or going out of our way for someone who is dealing with a difficult time. Learn to enjoy the company of every person, whether we get along or not. Annoy them with kindness! You know the saying, “kill them with kindness”.
This isn’t easy advice to follow. It’s easier to give our time and money to those we love and show respect in return, but sometimes it means more to out of our way and enjoy the company of those who we cannot handle! Enjoy your Holiday Season and take time to think and care for not only those you love but those who might annoy you, but also are deserving of love too.
The Special Moments.
1. Pick one person in your life who needs to feel loved and do something extra special for them. Send them flowers, make them cookies or even a funny card in the mail will brighten their day.
2. Go out of your way to invite someone out for coffee who might annoy you, but needs a shoulder to lean on.
3. Make extra time for those you love. You might make a small effort here, but don’t they deserve your time and attention. Even setting up a date night for you and your significant other or even more fun, schedule a date night for a couple who hasn’t had a night out without the kids in awhile.
4. Truly take the time to listen to someone. Instead of zoning out when someone is seeking advice or even just to be listened to, maybe try to absorb what they are saying and be interested in them.
5. Learn to love others more than yourself. This might seem obvious, or you are rolling your eyes at this point, but life has enough tragedies, woes and selfish people who want the attention all the time. Take a moment to accept your sufferings, appreciate your blessings, and stop dwelling on your own problems, oftentimes you will realize that others have it much worse and are in dire need of a friend.
Wait, maybe it’s just a lack of common-sense. We aren’t talking about spending excessive amounts of time primping and prodding just to buy groceries! No, we are talking about the basics here:
Did you brush your hair and teeth this morning?
Did you take a minute to put on some mascara, eyeliner and a dab of lip gloss? (Come on, Ladies, you know what your face needs to look more awake!)
Are you wearing matching socks? (And Men, brown socks and black shoes do not compliment! Don’t even get us started on the white socks and black shoes!)
Did you get dressed? And no, pajama pants that look like yoga pants do not count!
These questions might seem ridiculous and wreak of common-sense but for some reason common-sense is extremely lacking in today’s society! Why is it so hard for people to put themselves together in the morning? We don’t mean you have to leave the house looking like the Duchess of Cambridge (even though she always looks fabulous!) but give yourself 15-20 minutes to get ready and make a little more effort with a little less laziness. You will be amazed at the results!
“Carelessness in dressing is moral suicide.” ~Honoré de Balzac
You think there is no time to get ready for work in the morning? Think again! Here’s your solution: wake up 20 minutes earlier!
You think that your children must look put together for school, and there is no time left for you? Think again! Here’s your solution: wake up 20 minutes earlier! Get yourself dressed first and then wake up the family. Children will lead by example.
You think, “this is my day off, why should I get dressed?” Please reconsider this thought process… If you plan on staying home, that’s fine, wear the yoga pants but at least brush your hair and apply a small amount of makeup. You may have an unwelcome guest sooner than you think. If you do leave the house to run errands, it is important to put yourself together for the day. You might run into a client, future client, past co-worker, old high school crush, or maybe even a future lover!
FIRST IMPRESSIONS DO COUNT!
Unfortunately, the theory of “individuality” has been taken to an extreme! An extreme of laziness, self-deprecation, lack of common-sense and in the end, just irresponsible as the next person. You won’t lose your personal style or values by dressing with style! It has become abnornal to see a woman put together with clothing fitted properly, makeup complimenting her facial features and her feminine physique isn’t hidden behind frumpy t-shirts. Men, show your masculinity, be proud of it! Don’t wear baggy pants and t-shirts (enough said!). Please get rid of the Hawaiian shirts or save them for Hawaii. Why is it so hard for men to wear a polo and khaki pants? Here’s a tip: Women love a well-dressed man! Use that to your advantage!
“Like every good man, I strive for perfection, and, like every ordinary man, I have found that perfection is out of reach – but not the perfect suit.” ~Edward Tivnan
As the cooler temperatures creep upon us, (what do I mean creep? It has been in the 70’s and 80’s for far too long in Wisconsin) it is that time of year when we all need to take a step back and examine more than just our life, but the lives of those around us. With the start of school and fall activities, one thing should become clear to us as the carefree days of summer disappear – the importance of family/framily time.
Family dinners were always a huge part of my childhood and even though my brothers and I might have missed a few when we were in high school, in exchange for our sports and after school clubs, but looking back, I wish we hadn’t. I’m very grateful for those activities, but looking at the bigger picture they appear very insignificant now. But I suppose that is part of life and learning to grow into a better person.
From the moment my husband and I started our family, we wanted to focus on family time, and so every night we sit down to eat as a family. I am grateful for this, no matter if we are rushed some nights to get out the door for soccer or if other nights we enjoy an hour dinner to make up for the rushed evenings, but this is our time and something that we value. This means putting away any distraction for the time being – whether that’s homework, cell phones, work papers, none of that matters during our dinners.
Family time doesn’t only include dinners, but we heavily value our Sundays. Each weekend it may look different, but overall, it is quality time spent with our children. Whether getting together with extended family for a game of soccer in the backyard, watching the Packers, or taking a naps after enjoying brunch, whatever encompasses our Sunday, it always includes time with our kids.
I’m not going to pretend that technology is obsolete on a Sunday and we have resorted to the “Old” Days, but we don’t want to waste too much time with those distractions. It isn’t always easy, because sometimes all I want to do is scroll through Twitter mindlessly. But that isn’t what my children need and when it comes to “family time” it’s about our family as a whole not as individuals.
So, find what keeps your family grounded. How do you come together? Are you working towards something bigger than just one or two people? How do you create an experience that not only allows, but forces you to understand and learn more about each other? If we don’t know the members of our immediate family, then we aren’t truly living. These are the people who will be there for us through thick and thin (even if it takes awhile to get over last year’s family reunion) but they are still family. It might take awhile to find your family’s “thing” and sometimes if you have been gifted with a friend who is like family then you are truly blessed to open your circle and to grow in love. Continue searching, and eventually, you will find what brings your family joy and you won’t want to let it go. It will be worth missing the parties, the overtime at work, lunch with friends, and even the addicting Instagram stories because your family is where you can be yourself and where you can rejuvenate for the upcoming week. Put your family as a priority and everything else will quickly fall into line.
It took me awhile to write this post as I sit back and feel a bit sad that my children are returning to school. Yes, I am looking forward to that schedule, but I’m not going to pretend that our lives were chaotic with no schedule during summer. For everyone who knows me well, knows that I can’t live without schedules. I love to-do lists and planning my day. It doesn’t mean that we are doing something each moment, but I like everything to be in order, it’s one of my obnoxious personality traits. So, yes, it will be nice to have a few hours during the day with two children, instead of all four, since most of the older ones don’t take naps anymore…but it’s also not easy for me to let them go. As I sit and ponder why it’s getting harder for me to send them to school each year, instead of easier, here are a few of the “Mom Truths”that best describe my thoughts as another school year begins.
- As I stay home with my little ones and get to witness their first words, first steps, and much more, I don’t get to see all these firsts with my older children when they are at school. It’s part of letting them have independence and learning on their own, but I don’t get to see their first smile from meeting a new friend, or the feeling when they receive a treat for a job well done, or how they play in gym class. Yes, I get to hear about it, but I miss seeing these firsts and sometimes I wish I could be a fly on the wall.
- It’s exciting to know that my children are learning to develop and become independent people as they step out of the house and venture into a new classroom. But, honestly, it’s really hard to let go. It’s hard to not be their only happy place. I’m so grateful that my children have a wonderful school to attend with loving teachers and I know it’s part of motherhood, to them fly, but it isn’t easy.
- I didn’t always cherish these moments, but I have learned to love any extra time with my children when they desire me to be by their side. They haven’t reached the moody teenage years yet and they still want to sit next to me or hold my hand. As they enter a new grade this year and are another year older, it’s making me more aware that these days are going to end.
- No matter how tough it is to be in the thickest waters of motherhood with four little ones, it’s getting hard to let this phase go with some of the older ones as they become independent. I am appreciative that the older ones are much more self-sufficient than the 20 month and 3 year old, but it does sadden me to know that they no longer need my help as they once did. I still remember feeding my oldest child yogurt in the living room over seven years ago on a lazy morning. Those were the mornings before I had any children in school and it could be a whole day of play. Now that I focus attention on more than one child, there are many more responsibilities and less time for lazy days.
I am so happy that my children are growing into beautiful people who one day will need to thrive on their own without my help. It’s our job as parents to provide all of these life lessons in order for them to succeed, but as we do, we also give up a bit of ourselves. That is the hardest part. It’s beautiful to love, but it sad to lose a bit of ourselves with each life lesson we teach our children. But, isn’t that the ultimate gift of love? To remember that our children are only on loan to us and they have their own missions in this world. Let’s hope that we are all giving them the tools to succeed and make it a better place for everyone.