Summer Reminders

We need to stop looking too much into the future! This is not the time to wish our lives away.

Summer is not over! Don’t wish it away either. I believe that many of us have been looking too much towards the fall – whether that’s because of school uncertainty, election issues, or another upcoming shutdown, but we need to stop. We need to stop looking too much into the future! This is not the time to wish our lives away. In Wisconsin, we spent several months in a shutdown and now, instead of enjoying these warm months with our families, we are spending our days worrying about the future – a future that we have absolutely no control over. So, here are a few summertime reminders, because after all we have several weeks to enjoy this glorious weather!

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  1. Faith. It’s time to make extra time for God. Let’s dust off those devotional books, put aside some quiet moments for prayer, and place our trust back in God. Bask in the sunshine, enjoy the warmth, and give the control back to God. This isn’t easy, but true freedom.
  2. Family. Family time should be a priority, but sometimes we place this on the back-burner. Yes, we need to earn a living. Yes, we need to provide support to our community. But if our family isn’t coming first, then we are not making progress – we are only treading water with nowhere to swim. Stop treading and start living. It’s okay to stay home all day, clean bedrooms, read books, bake cookies, or watch an old movie with the family. These are the important moments. The down-days will ultimately bring us more joy than the days we spend running around trying to fulfill commitments and barely recognize that our children only want time with us, not big events, but big hugs instead.
  3. It’s Too Short. In the Midwest, summer is too short and winter is too long. Why are we wishing for time to speed up as we await announcements beyond our control? Stop worrying. Yes, that’s easier said than done. But it’s wasting time to dwell on the uncertainty. Thrive on the here and now. Don’t wish summer away, winter brings 9 long months of dark and cold.
  4. Commitments. If you can’t remember what you did last week or if the calendar fills too quickly beyond you’re control – stop! Limit the engagements. Life is not suppose to be a rat race. We tend to say “when things slow down”, but they won’t slow down without intention on our part. Many of us enjoyed the empty calendars, the slow days at home that were brought on by quarantine. There’s no reason our lives need to return back to an unending sea of engagements. Determine what is most important and eliminate the rest.
  5. Conserve. If anything, this time has not only taught me to trust more but that I need to conserve more. Maybe some of these recent events proved our over indulgence is quite unhealthy – whether that’s too many commitments, too many treats, too much shopping, or too much entertainment. I’d have to say that within just a few months, I have learned a lot and have also encountered my flaws. Let’s not fall back into bad habits of giving into our momentary desires. Time with our families is more important than hours on social media or shopping on Zulily. Yes, there’s a time and place for all of those things, but are we doing too many things in excess that should be more controlled?

Change is Soooo Gooood!

We have a choice. We can make a change.

Change is soooo gooood, but only when you are ready to accept it, right? Wrong. It’s a time for change. Honestly, when isn’t it a time for change? It’s inevitable in life, a little bit like death. Saddening but true.

We have a choice. Change can wreck havoc on our lives, or we embrace it, move with the waves, and find our place in the mess. Will we give ourselves excuses to sit in the background, complain about the circumstances, and wish for the past? Or will we dump our attention in the unknown for our growth and benefit?

I have found change to bring an array of emotions, the type of emotions that bring many different levels: happiness, emptiness, loneliness, overwhelming grief, happiness, another level of emptiness, anger, and then peace. These feelings are normal and let our minds adjust to the change, but they shouldn’t overwhelm us. They are good and natural, but will only hinder our personal growth. Life is full of twists and turns and there’s time to grow, but why waste a moment?

Accepting Change When We Can’t Control It.

Move with the tide. If we can’t adjust to our surroundings, we won’t personally grow.

It’s okay to fight the change, but only with solid convictions. If you don’t know why you’re fighting change, then it’s probably not worth the battle.

Find your life line. Who brings you joy and peace? Who calms you down? Don’t go at this alone – find your peach, the person who listens and supports you, but doesn’t get you more agitated.

Not all change appears positive, but there will always be a lesson to learn.

Last, but not least – Love Life! This sounds cliche, but we only get one chance at this. Are we making the most of the time with ourselves, our families, our friends, and the strangers who need our smile and humor. Embrace the change. Love the change. Because Life is Worth Living!

Loving These Days

Welcome to Loving These Days.
As a wife, mother, entrepreneur, and lover of the Classics, I have attempted to find the perfect “balance” in my life, but that does not exist – at least not in the way many people assume. There is not a perfect balance, but rather a list of priorities. A content life of happiness and peace includes: God, Family, Friends, Work, and Rest. Some may believe that I am a workaholic, and they may be correct. Whether that’s the truth or not, I don’t have a problem admitting that every new challenge entices me for an opportunity to learn new things.
Loving These Days has been a resource “in the making” for many years through my growth as an wife, mom, entrepreneur, and fundraiser. I have started over three businesses, co-authored a non-fiction book about manners and common sense, and undertook extensive fundraising endeavors. It is important to know that through each of my businesses, a personal lesson was learned and out of those lessons developed the premise for this site. Every new opportunity gives us the chance to enhance our talents and find our passions.
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It is a fine balance, as an entrepreneur, to work both for oneself and for others. Loving These Days is bringing together my Faith, my Faith, and Graceful Living. Please grow with me as the website becomes an outlet of beauty, truth, and goodness through my personal loves: my faith, my family, cooking, baking, entertaining, etiquette, books, home design, money management, and fashion.
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