How time flies! It has been five years since the launch of the book, Provocative Manners: The Sauce of Life with my best friend, Katrina. There’s nothing more amazing, nor more exhausting than writing a book. As I am now working on a second book, the love and pressure has started all over again and there are no better feelings than the love and dedication put into a book for others to enjoy! Buy your copy on Barnes & Noble or Amazon and enjoy!
The Holidays can be a difficult time for year for many people. Whether it’s due to a loss of a loved one, being alone and not having people to share it with, or the stress inflicted by relatives around you, it is also the time of year we can step back and learn to appreciate the simple pleasures in life, such as family, friends, our daily blessings and to become more grateful while giving back to others.
Sometimes we forget how to handle the stress of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years that we get caught up in ourselves and our own desires, while forgetting the needs of others. Instead of focusing on the gifts, the food, or the parties, let’s focus on spending time together or going out of our way for someone who is dealing with a difficult time. Learn to enjoy the company of every person, whether we get along or not. Annoy them with kindness! You know the saying, “kill them with kindness”.
This isn’t easy advice to follow. It’s easier to give our time and money to those we love and show respect in return, but sometimes it means more to out of our way and enjoy the company of those who we cannot handle! Enjoy your Holiday Season and take time to think and care for not only those you love but those who might annoy you, but also are deserving of love too.
The Special Moments. 1. Pick one person in your life who needs to feel loved and do something extra special for them. Send them flowers, make them cookies or even a funny card in the mail will brighten their day. 2. Go out of your way to invite someone out for coffee who might annoy you, but needs a shoulder to lean on. 3. Make extra time for those you love. You might make a small effort here, but don’t they deserve your time and attention. Even setting up a date night for you and your significant other or even more fun, schedule a date night for a couple who hasn’t had a night out without the kids in awhile. 4. Truly take the time to listen to someone. Instead of zoning out when someone is seeking advice or even just to be listened to, maybe try to absorb what they are saying and be interested in them. 5. Learn to love others more than yourself. This might seem obvious, or you are rolling your eyes at this point, but life has enough tragedies, woes and selfish people who want the attention all the time. Take a moment to accept your sufferings, appreciate your blessings, and stop dwelling on your own problems, oftentimes you will realize that others have it much worse and are in dire need of a friend.
“Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. Fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening.” ~ Coco ChanelIt seems that every time we go out, whether it’s to the grocery store, the mall, the office, the park, a date or even a wedding, there’s something missing! You may ask, what’s missing…? Does anyone own a mirror?
Wait, maybe it’s just a lack of common-sense. We aren’t talking about spending excessive amounts of time primping and prodding just to buy groceries! No, we are talking about the basics here:
Did you brush your hair and teeth this morning?
Did you take a minute to put on some mascara, eyeliner and a dab of lip gloss? (Come on,Ladies, you know what your face needs to look more awake!)
Are you wearing matching socks? (And Men, brown socks and black shoes do not compliment! Don’t even get us started on the white socks and black shoes!)
Did you get dressed? And no, pajama pants that look like yoga pants do not count!
These questions might seem ridiculous and wreak of common-sense but for some reason common-sense is extremely lacking in today’s society! Why is it so hard for people to put themselves together in the morning? We don’t mean you have to leave the house looking like the Duchess of Cambridge (even though she always looks fabulous!) but give yourself 15-20 minutes to get ready and make a little more effort with a little less laziness. You will be amazed at the results!
“Carelessness in dressing is moral suicide.” ~Honoré de Balzac
You think there is no time to get ready for work in the morning? Think again! Here’s your solution: wake up 20 minutes earlier!
You think that your children must look put together for school, and there is no time left for you? Think again! Here’s your solution: wake up 20 minutes earlier! Get yourself dressed first and then wake up the family. Children will lead by example.
You think, “this is my day off, why should I get dressed?” Please reconsider this thought process… If you plan on staying home, that’s fine, wear the yoga pants but at least brush your hair and apply a small amount of makeup. You may have an unwelcome guest sooner than you think. If you do leave the house to run errands, it is important to put yourself together for the day. You might run into a client, future client, past co-worker, old high school crush, or maybe even a future lover!
FIRST IMPRESSIONS DO COUNT!
Unfortunately, the theory of “individuality” has been taken to an extreme! An extreme of laziness, self-deprecation, lack of common-sense and in the end, just irresponsible as the next person. You won’t lose your personal style or values by dressing with style! It has become abnornal to see a woman put together with clothing fitted properly, makeup complimenting her facial features and her feminine physique isn’t hidden behind frumpy t-shirts. Men, show your masculinity, be proud of it! Don’t wear baggy pants and t-shirts (enough said!). Please get rid of the Hawaiian shirts or save them for Hawaii. Why is it so hard for men to wear a polo and khaki pants? Here’s a tip: Women love a well-dressed man! Use that to your advantage!
“Like every good man, I strive for perfection, and, like every ordinary man, I have found that perfection is out of reach – but not the perfect suit.” ~Edward Tivnan